Update on Sean...
Update on Sean...
We just got back about two hours ago. Thank you everyone for your continued prayers and loving energies for Sean and Deb. He will most definitely need them.
Deb is right now gathering her thoughts for posting more details, but here is a bit of what happened.
Sean attempted to commit suicide by jumping off a 75 foot bridge! The doctors told us that statistically, this kind of jump has a 90% fatality rate, and that the 10% that do survive usually have brain damage among other complications. The good news is he does not have any brain damage and did not injure any vital organs, although one lung did collapse and half of the other lung collapsed. He was put on a ventilator to assist his breathing and of course is heavily sedated with numerous meds and morphine for the pain. He is semi conscious tho and is able to follow commands from the doctor. In the moment he knows when Deb is there and tries to respond, sometimes with tears falling from his eyes. But the nurses said that usually paitents this critical do not remember their time in there nor any conversations. When he does respond to Deb his blood pressure goes up and he starts breathing too rapidly and we were asked not to talk with him because it makes it difficult to keep him stable.
In essense, he has shattered almost every bone in his body and will need numerous multiple surgeries. He already has had 4 since we've been there and another is scheduled for today, and two more next week. He broke both arms, elbows, legs, feet shattered, pelvis broke in 3 or 4 places, and lower jaw bone disconnected. The surgeries so far are lasting anywhere from 5 to 7 hours! They are literally trying to piece him together. There was some internal bleeding in the brain and the abdomen which was a concern in the beginning, but now that seems to be correcting itself. The doctors say he is not terminal and that he will be able to walk again, although due to fuzing the ankles it will probably be with a limp and may have to use a cane. He will have limited use of his arms. His jawbone is worse than expected so the surgeon could not do what he originally intended. Instead he removed the loose teeth and tried to fuse together the jawbone which split itself down the middle instead of in half which is what he was expecting. So he put some screws in there temporarily and wired his mouth and jaw shut. They put in a trach to ventilate him from there instead of via the mouth/throat that was originally done. So the jaw surgery is postponed until about 6 weeks from now.
Basically he's been holding his own and they have been able to keep him stable. However, after yesterday's surgery, he had a low fever which they said was normal, but it has risen this morning to over 102 and his heart rate jumped to 160 and they are quite concerned about that. I think tho that they still went ahead with the surgery today.
That's about where it stands for now. Deb will call the hospital tonight to see how he is doing.
Thank you one and all for all your loving thoughts and prayers and healing energies... They are so appreciated...
I think this is something that we all need to grasp.
On August 24, 2011, Wednesday, late in the day, I got a call from the Chaplain at Harris Methodist Hospital in Ft. Worth, TX. He said this was very hard for him to do over the phone but that my son, Sean, had jumped off the Vickery Bridge from 75 feet. He said that my son was alive but in very critical condition. I will not interject my feelings here, as I am certain that anyone reading this would know of their own accord. So, Peg and I packed our bags in a wait of the morning for a trip to the bank to gather funds for the trip to Texas. We then headed out to Ft. Worth. Peg drove for about four hours and then I took the wheel. Seems I was more comfortable driving than being the passenger as I knew the way and it seemed to keep my mind more occupied.
Some twelve hours later, we got to the hospital and found that Sean had already been taken into one of the first surgeries that he would have to address. We were told that it would be a lengthy surgery throughout the night to stabilize his limbs and were told to go find a place to rest until the morning. So we did.
Back at the hospital the next morning, we were told that he was stable, he was in the Trauma ICU. It appeared that he had no brain damage and that his organs were functioning. The doctor said it was a miracle that he had survived this fall.
I met with the doctors and told them of my son’s wishes if he were ever in this position that he did not want life sustaining efforts. The doctor told me that he had no life threatening injuries and that he could survive this.
My heart was heavy, as my son and I had talked about this when he was here with me. I felt obligated to tell them of his choices and so I did. The doctor was so gracious in that he said, we will follow his desires but we have to do everything that we can do, in this instance to save his life. The doctor relieved me of the choices to be made by his statement that he could not morally or legally do anything else than what he was doing and that he would take that responsibility upon himself.
I told him that this was not the first time that my son had attempted to relieve himself from this earth plane. He conceded in saying that he understood and that I had done what my son wanted but now it was in his hands and not mine. He said that Sean was on a breathing machine and would be until they got him off of it. If they felt they had to put him back on it, then they wouldn’t because of his request. So, then we went forward.
Sean has gone through multiple surgeries in this past week. Arms, legs, and lower jaw bone. He has many more to go through.
Today, he had fever and rapid heart beat, so they are going to insert a mesh in his artery in his groin area to prevent a blood clot from reaching his brain. And yet they are still going to proceed with the next surgery on his left arm. He has multiple breaks and his elbow is crushed. Then tomorrow, they will do surgery on his right arm. The doctor says that there could be limited movement in his elbows from here on out as well as his ankle function. He may walk again but with limited mobility as well as pain.
So, we are looking at a long road here.
It has been my opinion for quite some time that there are those who simply do not wish to be here at this time, and I know that my son is one of those. That is why I seek to honor his wishes. I know, in my heart, that we are eternal beings and that we do not “die”. To me, it is a matter of choice as with everything else. We all choose where and what we want to experience at any given time.
So, I ask the all of you to simply insert your energies to accomplish just that for my son. Let us all intend for his highest good whatever that may be. Whether he is to remain on this earth plane or to go forward to another dimension of existence. I believe my son knows best for his advantage. So, let us simply give energy to his highest good.
I so appreciate all of your attentiveness in his regard. We will be keeping you updated as we go along.
Thank you all so much for your tender loving care.
For Deb and Peg
I wish that I could be there with you Deb and Peg. In shock at the moment after reading all of this. Cannot fathom the depth of the grief you must be experiencing Deb. Sending you love and more love and of course, healing prayers for Sean.
Try not to be numb with the sorrow, and take good care of you dear one.
Thank you Peg for sharing this sad information and for being strong for Deb.
As heartbreaking as I know it is for you to write this, I so appreciate your courage in doing so.
It is so difficult for us in the physical to wrap our minds and hearts around the thought of losing anyone, whether by natural means, or accident, or suicide. But often, in the emotion of loss, we forget that as eternal beings we are all seeking that connection of oneness with our Source, and sometimes, that healing comes through our transition, as hard as that is for those of us still in the physical. As you say, it is the choice of each individual soul to seek its highest good and sometimes the path it chooses to do this is not understood by those of us who will miss their physical presence in our lives.
Blessings to you my friend, for the deep love you have for your son is so apparant in what you have written to accept his wishes and surround him with love, whether he chooses now to stay or not.
Along with all here, I continue to surround Sean with loving healing energies for his highest good...
Hugging you so...
I am so sorry you and Sean (and Peg) are going thru this.
You are an amazing spirit as I know Sean is. So as you ask, I am praying for the highest good of Sean, whatever that may be.... and of course the highest good for yourself and Peg.
I just cannot imagine how difficult this must be for all of you, tho I identify enough to sit here with tears in my eyes, so if this is full of typos, please understand.
I don't know if I could be as brave and open as you are being, Deb, if this were my son.... I tend to clutch at those around me even tho I believe the same things you do. For some reason, physical presence means everything to me.
Perhaps I can learn detachment from you and your strong belief in another existence.... I had that conviction once and lost it. Perhaps thru your and Sean's dynamic, I can get it back again. There is a lesson for all of us in this.
I have lost three relatives in the last two weeks. And my mother is 89 and my in-laws are in their 90's so more loss in the next few years is inevitable. I hope I can learn equanimity from you and your circumstances.
I am sorry I spent so much time talking about myself. But your situation was such a shock to my system I probably am not making sense at all.
Just let me close this by telling you I love you and am sending my intention for the highest good. I am sure the Universe knows what that is.
Deb, you are an impressively wise and strong person, always treating others as you would appreciate consideration and Sean is a fortunate man to have you as his mother,as we all are, to have you as our friend. You are truly amazing because you are so consciously clear in the wake of such a tremendously critical situation regarding your child, you exhibit a magnificent level of enlightenment, to be able to communicate so well within monumental stress. Deb, for you, Sean, your family and friends are in my prayers and light, every blessing.
All my love to you and your family.
will pray for the highest good for all .
I love you
Kris Lutz xo
I too am sending love and light your way. I am believe everything has been said in the above posts better than I could say.
Brightest Blessing and much much love,
I echo what Sunni/Jane and the others said. Lord have mercy !! Your strength and compassion are completely awe-inspiring. As a mother, I am sitting here with tears streaming down my cheeks, after reading about what Sean -- and you and your wonderful friends - - are experiencing.
Every ounce of healing love, warmth, energy and light are aimed at you right now, Deb. May this energy surround you, guide you, and bring you peace ...
Sending all my love and comfort to you and Peggles, and healing for Sean, wether it be healing of his body, or healing of his heart or both.
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